When my friends asked me at what age I got married, I answered 26. The respond were: "Whoa, why so early?!" Is 26 really THAT early nowadays??
Hubby and I started dating at the age of 23 like most people I know. The first year was really exciting; but at the 4th year, we got to know each other so well, that sometimes life seems like the same-old-same-old. I remember we get to a point where we watched a new movie every week, visited all shopping malls in town, and went to most of the restaurants we know...
However, I didn't plan at what age to get marry then. I thought I have to wait for the "marry feeling" to come, since I enjoy being single and can support myself comfortably. But all these cannot take away that routine feeling...
At about the same time, I attended a seminar. The speaker mentioned about love. This is the first time I learn something have not been taught before: 'Love is a decision, Love is not a feeling.' When you love someone, whether you are happy or sad, you still love that person. That means, when a person said he/she has no feeling towards the other person, he/she just DECIDED to not love the person anymore, not that the feeling is gone suddenly.
I met a friend later who asked us: "If both of you love each other, what are you waiting for? If you do not know the answer, let me tell you -- You are waiting for a 3rd party to come in between you." And I believe him, because I saw it happened to so many 'dragging' relationship.
Many years later, I am glad that I married at 26 and not 36. I need time to have babies, I need the energy to raise the kids. I need more young time -- to be a wife or a mom. It is more fun!
So I encourage those steady-dating couples to make a life time commitment. Remember in Nemo, Dory said to Marlin: "You can't have nothing happen to him, then nothing will ever happen to him." I once read : "Life is a daring adventure, or nothing at all"!! And I believe it is true.
Life is short, just do it ;)
'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one.' ~ Mark 10:7-8
