Get a Paradigm Shift

I have a paradigm shift after listen to this talk, I hope you too. Life sometimes put us in a box and we really need a little help like this to think out of the box, to learn new things.




'If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.' ~ Matthew 21:22

Do Schools Kill Creativity?

Sir Ken Robinson makes an entertaining and profoundly moving case for creating an education system that nurtures (rather than undermines) creativity.



'This is the written account of Adam's line. When God created man, he made him in the likeness of God.' ~ Genesis 5:1

Upgrade Your Marriage

When my thinking towards marriage was in 'teething' stage, I used to think or say certain things about my husband. I was surprised that many women I met did the same thing, saying things unknowingly... I wonder are they going through what I went through? Some having trouble to 'get-out' of that stage, and some even thought it is normal to be that way!

Find out whether you are in the 'teething' stage. Do you think or say something similar like these?

• 'When I say something, he always keep quiet...'


• 'He always do that silly thing, like a big kid...'


• 'Why can't he help out doing...'


• 'I cannot leave the kids with him, it will be a mess...'


• 'Why can't he change job, or get a raise?'


• 'He prefer watching TV than talking to me...'


• 'Before marry he will do that for me, after married I wonder if he would ...'


• 'Why can't he change?'


• 'I don't understand why he cannot do it this way, aren't this way much better?'


• 'Marriage is like a grave...'


• 'Why I married this guy? I think I marry the wrong person...'

I am now at a different level of thinking, that 'teething' time had passed. I am more happy now, feeling more loved.. and I admire my man. It is only now I foreseen a possibility of a so called 'happily-ever-after', and only now I understand why there are couples whom can be so in love with each other till the end.

Are you a wife like how I used to be? Are you a wife who think her husband is not loving enough, not caring enough, not thoughtful enough, or not smart enough? .. and you cannot 'change' him? My turning point started after I searched and found few books, and this is one of it.

I first saw the title of this book 'The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands' by Dr.Laura Schlessinger, I find it funny; but later I really learned something precious from it -- how to appreciate my other-half.

As a prerequisite, I recommend friends (especially choleric friends) to first read the book 'The Surrendered Wife' by Laura Doyle, to understand more about our 'controlling' desire. Then you will understand more on what the women in this book are talking about.

This book mainly are conversation between women and Dr.Laura, about their challenges with husbands. Dr.Laura is helping those women to understand that certain things can be improved by simply having a right thinking and a right attitude towards their husbands.

I saw many things those women mentioned in the book were things I had been doing, and it was really an eye-opener for me to learn something that no one has taught me before -- about how relationship between husband and wife should be, or should I say how God intended it to be.

The result after my changed (of thinking and attitude) was encouraging. As if husband is a lock, and wife have to make sure that she is not a lock, but a key. Be the correct key for that lock. When the key is right, walaaa... the lock opens!!


'In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.' ~ 1 Timothy 3:11