Although had been chating with friends through the net for many years, this is the first time I chat with hubby using messenger. The feeling kinda good.. (1) he pay attention to every word I said; (2) the topic can go more in depth and he's still awake! *yeah*
After I got married, I decided to have long chat with only my female friends; as I find when I chat with male.. topic better be work oriented and short, else, most of the time I will end up facing the male trying to flirt, which I don't want to get myself into. But with hubby, I feel very free to chat or even say something sweet.
Hubby told me he plan to watch a "guy-movie" with a male friend. Then I realised all these years I have hold him back from asking me to accompany him to do things.. things that I used to label "for guys only" and "for ladies only" (eg. violent vs. love story).
I told him I don't mind watching the movie with him, and he was quite surprised. I go on explaining, since we got kids our time together are very limited and precious.. as long as the movie is not too "one-sided", I guess we can watch together. The main thing is to be together together.
He agreed. And we both are very sure that we won't go and watch those devil movies.. which are too "out" of our zone anyway.
Wednesday, August 15, 2007
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
The Center of The House
Like planets evolve around the sun, children should evolve around parents. In a house, parents should always be the center, never the children.
The children will grow up and leave the house one day. Those parents who evolve around the children will suddenly lose their center. With an empty house, they do not know what to do anymore. They will realize they are not familiar with their spouse because the couple is not the center since the first child was born.
So I remind myself, hubby and I should be the center of our children. We have to make sure we don’t forget to care and love each other while busy attending to the kids, or take a short trip/holiday together without them. In a way, we also become good role model to them.
I hope one day when the children leave us to create another wonderful family, hubby and I will remain the center of the house… and still loving each other.
'Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise— that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.' ~ Ephesians 6:1-3
The children will grow up and leave the house one day. Those parents who evolve around the children will suddenly lose their center. With an empty house, they do not know what to do anymore. They will realize they are not familiar with their spouse because the couple is not the center since the first child was born.
So I remind myself, hubby and I should be the center of our children. We have to make sure we don’t forget to care and love each other while busy attending to the kids, or take a short trip/holiday together without them. In a way, we also become good role model to them.
I hope one day when the children leave us to create another wonderful family, hubby and I will remain the center of the house… and still loving each other.
'Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise— that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.' ~ Ephesians 6:1-3
Tuesday, May 8, 2007
Homeschooling?
I first learned the concept of homeschool from some friends whom are already doing it. That time I think I was either pregnant or have my small baby with me. I saw the homeschool kids, and I really like them! With a young age, they have good attitude, they know God and learn His principles. They talk with confident and politeness to adults (not only to their peers), and have good manners. That was something I lack even when I was 18, and was graduate from a so-called boarding school.
Hubby and I did consider homeschooling when we my eldest daughter reaching pre-school age. One main reason is because it is a way of life. Later, I read a book and learned about how school came about...
Before 19th century, there are no such things as public school, adolescence, or gender gap. Age was not consider important to complete studies. People graduated at different age, some at 17, some at 28. Students matured at their own rate, progressing at their work on own level. Even social gatherings, children mingled with adults.
End of 19th century, Horace Mann was the first to put students in classes with a fixed learning pace separating them. Then early 20th century, Granville Stanley Hall wrote a book "Adolescence: It's Psychology, and its Relationas to Physiology, Anthropology, Sociology, Sex, Crime, Religion and Education". He believed that the stages of man were the same as the stage of history, and felt that adolescence required teenagers to be separated from those older and younger than themselves. Basically, this set the groundwork for rebellion to be accepted as part of "being a teenager". Many social psychologists since have viewed this rebellion as a good thing, and credit Hall with inventing adolescence.
Dewey was Hall's most renowned follower, and taught this to educators at the University of Chicago. Dewey created High Schools. Thus, by 1950, within a generation after Dewey we saw, for the first time in the western world, an adolescent sub-culture. The generation gap appeared in the difference of own music, literature, dressing, language. Contrary to the scripture teaching: "You shall rise up before the gray headed, and honor the presence of an old man and fear your God".
One of the most frequent questions people asks regarding homeschooling is about the kids' socialization. I found a very good site that can explain about socialization, which open my mind on this interesting explanation.
Hubby and I did consider homeschooling when we my eldest daughter reaching pre-school age. One main reason is because it is a way of life. Later, I read a book and learned about how school came about...
Before 19th century, there are no such things as public school, adolescence, or gender gap. Age was not consider important to complete studies. People graduated at different age, some at 17, some at 28. Students matured at their own rate, progressing at their work on own level. Even social gatherings, children mingled with adults.
End of 19th century, Horace Mann was the first to put students in classes with a fixed learning pace separating them. Then early 20th century, Granville Stanley Hall wrote a book "Adolescence: It's Psychology, and its Relationas to Physiology, Anthropology, Sociology, Sex, Crime, Religion and Education". He believed that the stages of man were the same as the stage of history, and felt that adolescence required teenagers to be separated from those older and younger than themselves. Basically, this set the groundwork for rebellion to be accepted as part of "being a teenager". Many social psychologists since have viewed this rebellion as a good thing, and credit Hall with inventing adolescence.
Dewey was Hall's most renowned follower, and taught this to educators at the University of Chicago. Dewey created High Schools. Thus, by 1950, within a generation after Dewey we saw, for the first time in the western world, an adolescent sub-culture. The generation gap appeared in the difference of own music, literature, dressing, language. Contrary to the scripture teaching: "You shall rise up before the gray headed, and honor the presence of an old man and fear your God".
One of the most frequent questions people asks regarding homeschooling is about the kids' socialization. I found a very good site that can explain about socialization, which open my mind on this interesting explanation.
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