Happy Family

When we raise our children, we bought parenting books to read, we are so careful not to repeat the bad things our parents did to us. But we forgot to check are we actually doing the bad things to our spouse?

One very common things our Chinese parents in the last generation did was to use abusive words to teach their children, they believe by putting down the child will make them wanted to do better. I recently realised sometimes our generation (husband and wife) will unintentionally said things that hurt each other, blame, or make each other feel guilty... we are not even aware of what we were saying because we were being brought up in that kind of environment. All these sound so normal and familiar...

Therefore, teaching and raising kids positively is hard for this generation, we have to learn to be patient. On the other hand, building loving relationship with spouse is even harder, and need more attention, especially when we disagree on certain things. When a talk turns to a discussion or a debate, before it becomes "high level", we have to learn to stop and walk away. I have learnt writing my feelings on paper.

At the end of the day -- peace and love are the most important thing for a happy family :)


Love is patient and kind.
Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
Love does not demand its own way.
Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.
It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstances.
~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

The Great Mom and Success of Child

I am very impressed with the 2 books "The Great Mom and Success of Child 1 & 2". It answered me to questions I always have: how to raise good kids to be good adults?

I know to raise kids cannot rely purely on academic education. It has to do with something that the kids learnt by watching and being with people around them and the environment they are in. But how? yes, I found the answers from these books... awesome!

I am passing the book to some friends to read. However, this book is in Chinese (originally in Korean), and I am not able to share with others who doesn't read Chinese.

I am planning to make some notes on it (and hopefully able to apply them). Will share it on my blog later.

Guy Movie or Gal Movie?

Although had been chating with friends through the net for many years, this is the first time I chat with hubby using messenger. The feeling kinda good.. (1) he pay attention to every word I said; (2) the topic can go more in depth and he's still awake! *yeah*

After I got married, I decided to have long chat with only my female friends; as I find when I chat with male.. topic better be work oriented and short, else, most of the time I will end up facing the male trying to flirt, which I don't want to get myself into. But with hubby, I feel very free to chat or even say something sweet.

Hubby told me he plan to watch a "guy-movie" with a male friend. Then I realised all these years I have hold him back from asking me to accompany him to do things.. things that I used to label "for guys only" and "for ladies only" (eg. violent vs. love story).

I told him I don't mind watching the movie with him, and he was quite surprised. I go on explaining, since we got kids our time together are very limited and precious.. as long as the movie is not too "one-sided", I guess we can watch together. The main thing is to be together together.

He agreed. And we both are very sure that we won't go and watch those devil movies.. which are too "out" of our zone anyway.