Monday, May 21, 2012
Raise up Kids without Gadget
The test was to find out whether TV has any effect on children. The group of doctors prepare 2 identical empty room which has only a window. They let a child who grew up with TV into 1 room, and another child who grew up without TV to another room. They let the kids alone, and monitor them for 2 hours through CCTV.
After a while they started to see the differences. The child who watch TV do not know what to do. He got so bored and lying there doing nothing. The child who have not watch TV started to move towards the window, enjoying the view outside, at the same time trying to figure out whether he can get out of here, by trying to open the window, and see anything he can get to escape.
The doctor friend told me their conclusion of the test has proven that TV took away creativity and imagination of a child. Young children watch TV causing them not to think, because the TV is constantly feeding them information, and flashing so many graphics that stimulate the brain without it needing to process on thinking.
Since then, I have started to read more books on child development. I have decided to try my best not to let my kid get too much stimulation from a "square screen". I wanted them to get their views, their feelings and experience from the real world. Touching the real stuff, talking to real people, seeing things happening in the real world.
To me, for example, Bringing my kids to the beach, letting my kids feel the sand, teaching them about sand, play sand castle with them... is far more educational than showing them sand on a gadget. Even we can't go to the beach, bringing them to a book store, buying a book about sand, talking to the shopkeeper, learn to pay for the book... is something worth experiencing.
Today, not even TV, many other things like video games, online chats, etc... has attracted us to rather look at the "screen" then facing the real people. I saw so many youngster nowadays playing their games during everyday activity. They seldom talk to people around them, their eyes are forever on the screen, no interaction with things around them.
Of course we cannot avoid technology, everyone need to keep up with it. But we as parents, are to make sure we raise our kids in early year with good foundation, so that all the gadget later becomes things that help them on finding information, get entertainment temporary to release stress; and not get addicted, or being controlled by it.
Below is an advertisement in Thailand. The effect of gadget is so huge in Asia that it has become a good enough topic for advertisement on family. The message is to tell everyone, it is time to take note on people around you, people who always stand beside you, supporting you, people who love you always.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Fun Theory Really Works
If we live happier, we won't mind life is harder.
'And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God' ~ Colossians 1:10
Saturday, February 20, 2010
Hopeful Dengue Fever Cure and H1N1 Cure
The medicine didn't work. She still had her fever, and started coughing with phlegm on the 3rd day. She complained her back was itchy, and I saw some rashes there, so I apply some raw Shea Butter on her to stop the itchiness. I suspected Dengue and decided to use the 'Raw Papaya Leaf Juice' method. I got to know this method from my sister whom once got dengue, and was discharge from hospital after drinking it on the 5th day.
I also receive an email about a man who used it to save his son's life:
'..my son was in the critical stage at the ICU.. from a platelet count of 45 after 20 liters of blood transfusion, and after drinking the raw papaya leaf juice, his platelet count jumps instantly to 135. Even the doctors and nurses were surprised. After the second day he was discharged.'
I thought juice from leaf should not be harmful. Therefore, I decided to stop her cough medicine. Gave my kid 1 big chinese-soup-spoon of raw papaya leaf juice. After 10mins, her fever went down from 39 to 36, and keeping a good temperature for 24 hours! I gave her another spoonful on 4th day to maintain the body temperature.
Then 5th day, I thought she was ok. I stopped giving her the juice, and start the antibiotic for her phlegm.. the fever came back within half a day! She seems weak and keep sleeping!! Midnight immediately gave her another spoon of juice again.
CNY eve (6th day), I brought her to the UH pediatric, and doctor decided to do the blood test due to many-days fever. He told us if we suspect Dengue, then we must stop taking any type of antibiotic and go for a check up. No antibiotic intake because Dengue need the body own immune system to fight, and antibiotic just weaken the immune system. And if Dengue and cough/phlegm happens together, treats the Dengue and forget about the other first.
When the result came out, the doctor was surprise her platelet was at 135, but with the WBC (white blood cell) low at 3.5. "Keep giving what you are giving, she should be fine" was what the doctor said. The next day, we just went back for a 2nd check up, my girl is already jumping up and down (and all of us first time celebrate CNY 1st day at UH!).
I continue giving her the raw papaya leaf juice for 7 days without break, and she's fully recovered. Later I spoke to few mothers, and one mother told me she used it for his son (4 years old) when suspected Dengue and later confirmed as H1N1 case, whom fever also controlled by the juice and recovered later.
These were the steps I did:

1. Pluck 2 pieces of raw papaya leaves from papaya tree, clean the leaves.
2. Tear and take the leafy part (throw away the stem).
3. Cut the leafy part into small pieces and pound them.
4. Squeeze the juice into a bowl, filter it to a spoon.
5. You will only get 1 chinese-soup-spoon of juice (roughly 2 tbsp).
Do not boil or cook or rinse the leaves with hot water. What you need is the raw leave juice. It is very bitter, just swallow it and drink some water to rinse your mouth afterwards.
I believe what the papaya leaf does was not just bringing down fever. It should have some other healing properties bringing the platelet up, and also killing the viruses. However, no institution is studying it.
Well.. this is the start of my CNY. I hope what I have learned and used can benefit others. Please pass around this information, I believe it will safe lives.
'Five of you shall chase an hundred, and a hundred of you shall put ten thousand to flight: and your enemies shall fall before you by the sword.' ~ Leviticus 26:8
Friday, October 9, 2009
Things Should Teach Young Schooling Children
I asked her
'Are you waiting for school bus?' She shook her head.
'Are you waiting for your parent?' She nodded.
'Are your parent normally come late?' She shook her head.
'Do you have your house address?' She shook her head.
'Do you have your house phone number?' She shook her head.
'Do you know your house direction?' She nodded.
She wouldn't talk. The conversation was between shaking and nodding heads. She was sent home by the school canteen boss, fully relying on her finger-pointing direction.
The canteen boss later told me, they reached her grandpa house that day, which was not very far, but was not where she stays. The grandpa mentioned that she was not waiting for her parent, but school bus. However this girl likes to play and run around school while waiting for her school bus, that's why she missed her bus.
What was missing here? A list of simple things parents should teach their young children going to school.
- Give them a tag with house phone number and address to keep in school bag.
- Give them some money to keep in school bag (for emergency use, call home/buy food).
- Teach them to use the public phone.
- Teach them to differentiate reliable adults (school canteen workers, teachers, schoolmate's parents) vs. stranger on the street.
- Teach them to speak up if -- someone bully them, stranger getting friendly, alone in school, etc.
- Spend some time with them at home to talk about strangers, robbers, kidnappers, bullies, rapist. Not too deep, but at the level they can understand.
Teach our children things that cannot learn in the text book, tell them how to handle things that no one will explain to them if you don't (and they will one day face it).
They will be better children when they are 'informed'.
'Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.' ~ Deuteronomy 11:19
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Victory in Life by Faith
'For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.' ~ Jeremiah 29:11
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Fairness in God's Eyes
Me: 'God, I read about what you told Moses in Leviticus 12. That's unfair! Isn't that sexist?'
God: 'My gal, why do you think it that way? Don't you understand? ...a factory producing Mercedes Benz is different from the one producing BMW. There are different tools used in the factory, and the cleaning process is different..'
Me: 'Ooh.. I see, I see... got it now.'
'For the Lord gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.' ~ Proverbs 2:6
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
1,2,3,4 - by Plain white T's
Enjoy...
1,2,3,4 - by Plain whilte T's
1, 2, (1, 2, 3, 4)
give me more loving than i ever had
make it all better when i'm feeling sad
tell me that i'm special even when i know i'm not
make me feel good when i hurt so bad
barely getting mad, i'm so glad i found you
i love being around you
**you make it easy, as easy as..
1 2, (1 2 3 4.)
there's only one thing two do three words
four you.. (i love you) i love you
there's only one way two say those three words
and that's what i'll do... (i love you) i love you **
give me more loving from the very start
piece me together when i fall apart
tell me things you never even tell your closest friends
make me feel good when i hurt so bad
best that i've had, i'm so glad i found you
i love being around you
repeat **
(i love you) i love you..
repeat **
(i love you) i love you
1... 2... 3... 4... (i love you) i love you...
(i love you) i love you.
_________
'Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.' ~ Proverbs 3:3
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Get a Paradigm Shift
'If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.' ~ Matthew 21:22
Monday, July 13, 2009
Do Schools Kill Creativity?
'This is the written account of Adam's line. When God created man, he made him in the likeness of God.' ~ Genesis 5:1
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Upgrade Your Marriage
When my thinking towards marriage was in 'teething' stage, I used to think or say certain things about my husband. I was surprised that many women I met did the same thing, saying things unknowingly... I wonder are they going through what I went through? Some having trouble to 'get-out' of that stage, and some even thought it is normal to be that way!
Find out whether you are in the 'teething' stage. Do you think or say something similar like these?
- 'When I say something, he always keep quiet...'
- 'He always do that silly thing, like a big kid...'
- 'Why can't he help out doing...'
- 'I cannot leave the kids with him, it will be a mess...'
- 'Why can't he change job, or get a raise?'
- 'He prefer watching TV than talking to me...'
- 'Before marry he will do that for me, after married I wonder if he would ...'
- 'Why can't he change?'
- 'I don't understand why he cannot do it this way, aren't this way much better?'
- 'Marriage is like a grave...'
- 'Why I married this guy? I think I marry the wrong person...'
I am now at a different level of thinking, that 'teething' time had passed. I am more happy now, feeling more loved.. and I admire my man. It is only now I foreseen a possibility of a so called 'happily-ever-after', and only now I understand why there are couples whom can be so in love with each other till the end.
Are you a wife like how I used to be? Are you a wife who think her husband is not loving enough, not caring enough, not thoughtful enough, or not smart enough? .. and you cannot 'change' him? My turning point started after I searched and found few books, and this is one of it.
I first saw the title of this book 'The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands' by Dr.Laura Schlessinger, I find it funny; but later I really learned something precious from it -- how to appreciate my other-half.
As a prerequisite, I recommend friends (especially choleric friends) to first read the book 'The Surrendered Wife' by Laura Doyle, to understand more about our 'controlling' desire. Then you will understand more on what the women in this book are talking about.
This book mainly are conversation between women and Dr.Laura, about their challenges with husbands. Dr.Laura is helping those women to understand that certain things can be improved by simply having a right thinking and a right attitude towards their husbands.
I saw many things those women mentioned in the book were things I had been doing, and it was really an eye-opener for me to learn something that no one has taught me before -- about how relationship between husband and wife should be, or should I say how God intended it to be.
The result after my changed (of thinking and attitude) was encouraging. As if husband is a lock, and wife have to make sure that she is not a lock, but a key. Be the correct key for that lock. When the key is right, walaaa... the lock opens!!
'In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.' ~ 1 Timothy 3:11
Friday, May 29, 2009
Somebody...
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct. Somebody never took a 3-year-old shopping.
Somebody said being a mother is boring. Somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.
Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out good". Somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.
Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices. Somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a ball through the neighbour's kitchen window.
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother. Somebody never helped a 4th grader with his maths.
Somebody said you can't love the 5th child as much as you love the 1st. Somebody doesn't have 5 children.
Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books. Somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labour and delivery. Somebody never had a child get on the bus for the 1st day of kindergarten.
Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back. Somebody never organized 7 giggling Brownies to sell cookies.
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married. Somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter in-law to a mother's heartstrings.
Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home. Somebody never had grandchildren.
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her. Somebody isn't a mother.
- author unknown
'May your father and mother be glad; may she who gave you birth rejoice!' ~ Proverbs 23:25
Friday, May 15, 2009
What to do when Children got Fever?
First of all, parents should learned that fever is not a sickness, but our body's response to a disease. It is considered one of our body's immune response to 'kill' the bacterial or virus. When we found the root cause and treat it, fever will subside.
If a child got fever, it actually shows that the child's immune system respond well to body condition. Then, what's next? It is now the parent responsibility to find out the root cause of the fever, and help the child's immune system to 'fight together'.
At the same time, things that can be done are:
(1) Sponge the kids forehead with wet tower continuously, or stick those KoolFever cooling pad on the kids forehead.(2) Give the kids plenty of water, juice, and vitamin C. Water helps to 'flush out' the unclean things, and juice and vitamin C helps to 'fight' the disease.
(3) Bath the child with warmer water or traditional herbs (like my grandma's recipe).
Then parents will need to be patience to monitor the child's condition. If the child is still actively playing, then not to worry. Normally the body can heal by itself within a day or two. Else, is time to consult a doctor of the root cause.
Basically doctor will try to find the root cause, then prescribed the medicine to treat the problem (infection of throat, etc.). Then he may also prescribed a type of antipyrin to suppress the fever for the comfort of the child.
Do not use antipyrin solely for fever. It only suppress the fever without helping it to fight intruding bacterial or virus. That's why the fever came back after the medicine subsided.
'Worship the LORD your God, and his blessing will be on your food and water. I will take away sickness from among you' ~ Exodus 23:25
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
MnO2 Mommy

'MnO2 (Manganese dioxide) is a type of catalyst. Let me tell you, my daughter.. when MnO2 is mixed to your life, besides it keeps rushing 'quick, quick', it strengthen you for challenges, it colored your life too. It let you shine with different colors at different places. It let you have your true worth at any situation. My dear daughter, this is mama.'
This book has many short stories about the author's life as a mother and a writer. I immediately fall in love with this book when I read the first article.
'... if you used to do housework, you will know that the toughest part are the small stuff, the little things.. what more when it keeps repeating! When my daughter was around 2-3 years old, I chased her in order to feed her, I chased her in order to bath her, ... I chased until I felt sad and like a failure. There was a time I asked her in an adult way: 'Do you want to give mommy happiness or sadness?' She answered: 'Mommy, chase me lah, that is happiness!' That reply was like a big nail nailed on my feet.. I took a big breath, make like a tiger.. Roar! Roar! Roar! Pounce on... happiness have to be chased.'
The author is able to transfer what she felt as a mom in writing to the reader, especially when the reader is a mom too. Besides, it makes me understand that every moms do go through what other moms are going through. It is not just me. This, in deed make me feel very happy.
'Children's children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.' ~ Proverbs 17:6
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Get Rid of Baby Rashes
Every time my 3 kids get fever, itchy, grumpy, crying at night.. I know that is the time the rashes going to develop. Thanks to my grandma 'recipe', my kids never have rashes more than a day.. but most of the time the rashes do not get to develop. The 'recipe' is actually a traditional method to bring down body heat and fever, I will share that method with you here.
Find these 'Garbage-Grass' (as shown in the picture below). They have unique flower like a lamp which fill with seeds. Most of the time you can find them near the drain or at the garden of an empty house.

The grass is used as bath water. (1)Pull out the whole plant with root.. many of them, enough to fill a big pot. (2)Put the grass in a big metal pot, add water to boil it, like the picture below.

(3)Cover the lid of the pot, let it boils for some time. Make sure the water do not spill out the pot. The water will slowly turn to light brown color.
(4)Pour the water to bath tub and add enough cold water to make it warm (slight warmer than the kid's body temperature). Then bath the kid.
(5)Rub the kid's back with plain flour. If the kid is 'heaty', his body hair will 'stand', with the flour stick at the tip of the hair (picture below was my son with the flour during his fever).

(6)Rinse the kid with clean warm water.
(7) Wipe the kid clean, use a shaver to shave away those body hairs that are with flour.
For those mothers whom do not want to shave their kids so much, use a moisture soap to clean away the flour during step 6.
Go away rashes.
Go away fever.
No crying at night.
Better sleep my baby.
Better skin my baby.
Happier baby.
'Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.' ~ Deuteronomy 4:9
Friday, April 24, 2009
How Big are You?
'Have you ever wondered where we come from and how we came into being?
Have you wondered how awesome is the universe and what is eternity?
Do you ever think how we fit into the big picture or think how great we are (sometimes)?
THIS is fascinating - it's rather dazzling to see it presented this way.



I certainly thought this was enlightening. Beyond our sun, it's a big universe.


ANTARES is the 15th brightest stars in the sky.
It is more than 1000 Light Years away.
How big are we?
... ...
Try to wrap your mind around this...
This is a Hubble Telescope ultra deep field infrared view of countless 'Entire' galaxies BILLIONS of Light Years away.

Below is a close-up of one of the darkest region of the photo above.

Humbling, isn't it?
And yet, God said He knows how many hairs are on our heads, and not even a single sparrow dies apart from His will!
So,
How big am I?
How big are the things that upset me today?'
I am so amazed. Imagine HOW BIG GOD IS then!
Keep life in perspective, my friend.
'By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God's command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible.' ~ Hebrews 11:3
'Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.' ~ Matthew 10:29-30
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Bacteria and Virus
Bacteria is a living cell. It reproduces by dividing itself. Most bacteria can grow on non-living surfaces, like coins, hands, tables, dustbin, etc. When a bacteria enters our body, the toxins it produces can damage our cells it has invaded.
Mmm.. Bacteria sound to me like Star War invader.. they come, they destroy. I believe if we take note about personal hygiene, we will cut down the chances of getting bacteria infection.
Virus is not a living organisms. It requires a living host (people, animal, plant) to survive and multiply. When a virus enters our body, it invades our cells and takes over the cell machinery, redirecting the cell to produce the virus. The virus may eventually kill the host cells.
Virus sound to me like Alien.. they come to parasitize at a living thing, mutate the cells, and eventually take over!
By understanding the differences, we will know that certain medications that are effective against bacteria are not effective against virus, and vise-versa.


'A man's spirit sustains him in sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear?' ~ Proverbs 18:14
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
How to end Work Day at Home
He did! The answer came 2 months ago... happened to read few articles online that I can pick up some point to adjust myself. Here are my notes to share:
- List out the work and housework that I need to do 1 day in advance. So that I won't spend too much time on certain things.
- End work at least 30 minutes before hubby arrives home. This also gives me a few moments to reflect my day, distress, and gradually ease out of work mode.
- Make sure that by the time hubby arrives home, I am not dressed in my pajamas.
- When work day is done, do not give in to the temptations of checking emails, etc.
- Spend some time alone with hubby every single day, even if it's just a few
minutes after the kids are in bed. Spend some time talking, snuggling on
the couch, or even eating a late-night snack together. - Try to get out of the house when there is opportunity. Go for a drive, walk around the neighborhood, or just sit outside of the house.
- Do something special for your the kids or hubby everyday. This can be as
elaborate as planning a fancy candlelight dinner, or as simple as replacing
all of the pencils with freshly sharpened ones. - Use physical gestures regularly, like hugs, kisses, back rubs.
Hope you find it useful as well :D
'Finish your outdoor work and get your fields ready; after that, build your house.' ~ Proverbs 24:27
Friday, February 20, 2009
I salute 沈慕羽
I regretted not meeting him in person when I have the chance. He is now on my 'Incredible Person List' together with Thomas Edison, Abraham Lincoln, Benjamin Franklin, Andrew Carnegie... a local, a Malaysian, another incredible person.
I salute 沈慕羽.
'Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom.' ~ James 3:13
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Everyday is a Special Occasion
If you want to understand what I mean, read this story..
A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package:
'This' - he said - 'isn't any ordinary package.'
He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.
'She got this the first time we went to New York , 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on, was saving it for a special occasion.
'Well, I guess this is it.' He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died..
He turned to me and said: 'Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion'.
I still think those words changed my life.
Now I read more and clean less.
I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.
I spend more time with my family, and less at work.
I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through. I no longer keep anything.
I use crystal glasses every day... I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if I feel like it.
I don't save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to.
The words 'Someday...' and ' One Day...' are fading away from my dictionary. If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now..
I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell.. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends. She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese food, her favorite. It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come.
Each day, each hour, each minute, is special. Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one.
'He who regards one day as special, does so to the Lord. He who eats meat, eats to the Lord, for he gives thanks to God; and he who abstains, does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God.' ~ Romans 14:6
Saturday, January 17, 2009
DIY Cleaner for House Cleaning
In the economy like this, many do not use high grade or organic cleaners due to their prices. Why not use what God has provided to make your own?
Below are some information I collected. Please share your experience if you have used them:
To clean the smelly drain, toilet, floor, dishes
- stir water and brown sugar in a clay container, or plastic bottle (the one with lid)
- add in fresh garbage (fruit skin, vege, cooked rice, leaf, plant)
- close lid (leave 3/10 of the space empty in the bottle for fermentation)
- open lid everyday to release air, until no air one day
To clean your sink
- after brush your teeth, use sponge with some toothpaste to clean the sink
- rinse with water
To take away sweat smell on shirt
- add in 2-3 slide of lemon during soaking time
To take away stubborn oil dirt on shirt
- use chalk to draw on the dirt before washing the shirt
To prevent cupboard or drawer from ants or worms
- put in 10 garlic
There are also other interesting method I heard, like..
- use expired milk to clean the floor, it will take away dirt and prevent dust effectively.
- use banana skin to clean leather shoes.
Wish everyone a Happy Chinese New Year, and happy house cleaning!!